The Performer who Promotes other Performers

One of the things I've seen with certain performers on sites is that they will continually promote other performers. When I say this, I mean the performers who every other post is not their own. Every once and a while you get performers who give a shout out to someone which is normal. This post is meant for the performers who just pump out content about themselves while also promoting other random performers in their cartel (description: "intended to promote a mutual interest."). This is a dangerous type of seller because they are part of a collective group that all promote each other. The performer will even use others posts as ways to show they are "active". I totally understand why they do it. simply a marketing exercise. The problem is a few things:

  • Firstly, you paid for that performer; you didn't pay for advertisements.
  • The performer is more worried about how they can get their name brand out there than they are about what you paid for
  • The performer is worried about their "likes" or their "reach" vs actually satisfying what they offered

When I say, "doing their job", it's merely a fact that if someone paid you for something you promised. It's the basis of a contact, you paid for a service and expect that service in return. They didn't pay to get advertisements or recommendations for other performers. I totally understand the upside a performer gets and wants from cross-promoting. Overall, though, and I have no statistics to back this up, my guess is the performer will do worse over time. I wouldn't recommend or stay subscribed to performers who have this behavior. 

The warning here is that if you subscribe to a performer and they are actively promoting everyone but themselves you should be weary. If you've ever worked in the service industry, imagine if your waiter/waitress came to your table. The first thing they said was "Thanks for being here and we have great food but have you seen all the other nearby restaurants?". 

Now I am not comparing a performer to a restaurant, it's merely an analogy. No one wants to get a service that is promoting something they didn't pay for. 

Self-Entitlement - Unblock Fee

If you are going to pay someone $100's for a service, you should have the ability to speak your mind (as long as it's in good faith and rational). If you aren't into humiliatrix or findom and make it clear to the performer, they should respect that. Whether you like it or not you are entering into a verbal contact, payment for services. Obviously, this is within reason and always with respect, if you are spending the money, you deserve a bit of decency and what you are paying for. It's not okay for someone to take your hard-earned money and then not provide services you were promised. It is not okay for someone to request you pay them and then give you a different experience that was promised (again within reason and respect). BUT also, remember there are two sides to every story. 


One trap too many people fall into is the "unblock" fee. What this is, is when a performer will try and use guilt for something you said or they didn't like. They will then tell you if you'd like to keep speaking to them you will have to pay them additional money. DO NOT FALL for this. This is simply a way to get more money out of you. Now I know that there are cases where this can be a legitimate issue for the performer (I am not discounting that). Remember though this is the definition of extortion: "the practice of obtaining something, especially money, through force or threats."  Now I am not saying when a "unblock" fee is asked for its extortion but I am saying that it is certainly mirrors and looks like it. What I found is a lot of performers that are short term will use this against someone. 

What happens is you say or do something reasonable but the performer uses it as a threat. They will attack you and when you defend yourself for any commentary, they will get suspiciously defensive. What you will hear is something like, you now owe me an "unblocking tip", "new fee", "charge to unblock", "right to speak to them", and so many other things.

It is a combination of things in my opinion:

  • The idea that it is easy to take advantage of someone, especially under pressure
  • Superiority complex; that you are not allowed to debate or challenge them
  • You, the payee, may have actually been wrong and not apologized
  • You are not allowed any opinion that is not of the performers

Now this stems from a lot of things:

  • Insecurities 
  • Superiority complex
  • No ability to take criticism 
  • Lack of self-awareness
  • Ability to take advantage of people

But I think it mostly stems from so many people paying and are desperate to please the performer, that increases the performers themselves self-entitlement. They get used to everyone just adhering and doing what is told to them that they lose the ability to accept criticisms. If that is your kink and you love it, then enjoy it by all means.

If this is not your kink and you are a paying person, it is a shame that this behavior is accepted with performers. A performer has to look out for themselves and be vigilant. I 100% support that but it also doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't be able to take criticisms and you can't admit when you are wrong.

And by all means if you disagree with this story, please head over to the Discussion page and have an honest debate! 

Why this site exists

A lot of people have wondered why this site exists. The biggest reason is that you can never get a true review on spending time with a girl. For instance, there is an account on reddit:, If you notice that account NEVER posts a negative review. That account hides any negative reviews from people. It actively removes and makes sure only positive reviews are posted. I've tested it myself and not once has a negative review ever been posted. It's basically a self-promotion bot for "qualified" performers. Whoever controls it makes sure only the good gets through and makes sure none of the negative even if it's useful, gets out after that account justifies the performer. 

What I found out is that the admins of will ban anyone who has enough evidence (which is good) but it they will never EVER put a negative review of someone. It's really quite wild how they operate. Although with the infighting of mods it makes sense. What I mean by this is the mods on the site have so many disagreeing opinions in their discord channel it's a joke. They literally are constantly fighting on topics. 

So sometimes you need to figure out a new method. You need to allow free conversation to flow without petty mods deciding if it's okay or not. If you only allow the good. you will never allow the bad.  

Part 2: Reddit Sexsells: The 10 Red Flags

Continuing on things you need to look out for! These are tips from someone who went through it all. You can find part 1 here:
Part 1

Here is a continued list of signs you should look at, please pay attention to them! 


  • The performer uses excuses like:
    • My phone ran out of battery
    • I had to get a charging cord. I'll be right back 
    • I had to restart my phone
    • The app is acting weird, sorry for the delay

Read more ...Part 2: Reddit Sexsells: The 10 Red Flags

Reddit Sexsells: The 10 Red Flags

So, a lot of people pay for time with sellers on the subreddit /r/sexsells. There are clear and obvious signs to look out for on what you should avoid and what you should pay attention to. Here are my tips that will help you find someone who cares about the work they do versus someone who is trying to get as much money and/or the easiest job they can from you. Now, a lot of people will argue that this is like a strip club or another similar service. That is a fair argument but you also need to think about how you are paying for a service. You pay money and you get something in return. The problem comes when you are paying money and not getting what is advertised or what is asked for. Some sellers will go as far as acting like they are doing you a favor. The customer is not always right but you should be getting what you are paying for if they advertised or agreed to it beforehand.

Read more ...Reddit Sexsells: The 10 Red Flags